WHAT DO WOMEN WANT?!!!
PASTOR BECKY JOHNSON
NOVEMBER 13, 2011



A. Introduction
Men are asking this question – Truth is, we don’t always even know what we want! We do not look to the world’s culture, but to God’s Word for our standards.

B. Man’s Desire For Respect
   a. A man’s desire is for his wife to think that he is capable, strong, and her hero.

C. Women’s Desire For Love
   a. A woman’s desire is for her husband to love her above everyone else, to know her husband still thinks she is beautiful, and that her husband’s desire is for her.

D. Love
   a. Ephesians 5:25, 28, 29a, 33a
   b. Definition
      i. Greek = “to love”
      ii. Dictionary = “a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person”
   c. Just as Christ loved the church and gave Himself
      i. Unconditional, self-sacrificing love
   d. As they love their own bodies
      i. Nourish
         i. Greek = “to rear up to maturity; to cherish or train; bring up”
         ii. Dictionary = “supply with what is necessary for life, health, and growth”
      ii. Cherish
         i. Greek = to warm, protect, or cover”
         ii. Dictionary = “to hold or treat as dear; hold love for; to care for tenderly; nurture”

E. Understanding and Honor
   a. 1 Peter 3:7 – Two keys to loving your wife
   b. First – dwell with them with understanding
      i. Don’t try to fix them
      ii. Be loving and caring when they are sharing
      iii. Dictionary = “superior power of discernment; enlightened intelligence; knowledge of or familiarity of a particular thing”
   b. Second – give honor as the weaker vessel
      i. Greek = “to pay a price; a value; precious”
      ii. Dictionary = “high respect as for worth, merit”
      iii. Value her as a precious vessel

B. Hard to Love With No Respect
   a. God simply commands us to do this
   b. Not based on what the other does
   c. When women become contentious it produces resentment and bitterness in men
   d. Colossians 3:19
      i. Greek = “embittered thru the idea of piercing; sharp”
      ii. Dictionary = “hard to bear; grievous; distressful; causing pain; piercing; stinging”
   e. Resentment and bitterness brings pain

C. Love Does Not Equal Sex
   a. The sexual relationship is a gift from God for marriage
   b. 1 Corinthians 7:3-5
   c. Withholding from your spouse is wrong, except in the case of agreed upon fasting and prayer
   d. Do not use withholding as a manipulation to get your own way
   e. Render the affection due your spouse – be romantic

D. How To Love Your Wife
   a. Show her and tell her that you love her, that she is beautiful , she is your heart’s desire - Proverbs 5:18
   b. Listen to her as she shares her heart
      i. Not listening or trying to fix her will shut her down
   c. Spend time with her – make time for her
   d. Be gentle with her – harshness is piercing
   e. Be a strong leader – cover her and protect her