OH, NO - NOT THE "S" WORD - SUBMISSION AND RESPECT
PASTOR BECKY JONHSON
NOVEMBER 6, 2011



Intro: Submission! This word can bring the hair right up on your neck! A Biblical perspective of a woman’s role in marriage…

A. A Woman’s Role
   a. 2 extremes
      i. Women living with abuse, no rights, unquestioning loyalty
      ii. Women dominating, emasculating, and debilitating men
   b. Eve – Genesis 3
      i. There is something in us that desires to be like God.
      ii. Eve did not go to Adam, but took the spiritual lead.
   c. God restores His order (v. 16)
      i. Your desire shall be for your husband
      ii. He shall rule over you – a Godly submission that comes out of deferring and respecting your husband as the   spiritual leader

B. Definitions:
   a. Submit –
      i. Greek = “to obey; be obedient to”
      ii. Dic = “to give over to or yield to the power or authority of another”

   b. Respect –
      i. Greek = “to be in awe of; revere”
      ii. Dic = “esteem for, or a sense of the worth or excellence of a person; deference to a right or privilege”

C. Scriptures:
   a. Ephesians 5:22-24, 33b; 1 Peter 3:1-2; Colossians 3:18
      i. Unbelieving husbands will be won by the chaste conduct of their wives
      ii. Chaste conduct is “clean, innocent, modest, pure behavior and conversation”

B. Contentious:
   a. Scriptures – Proverbs 21:9; Proverbs 21:19; Proverbs 25:24; Proverbs 27:15
   b. Greek = “a contest or quarrel; brawling; discord; strife”
   c. Dic = “tending to argument or strife; quarrelsome”
   d. Contentions are ungodly, sinful behavior – Galatians 5:16-23; Romans 14:17

C. Being submissive is not:
   a. Arguing until you get your way
   b. Asking over and over until you wear your husband out and he gives in to you
   c. Being the spiritual head of your family
   d. Trying to make your husband be the spiritual head of the family

D. Being submissive is:
   a. Having a voice, an opinion, but then accepting the answer even if you do not agree.
   b. Wanting something a certain way and accepting the result even if you do not agree with the outcome.
   c. Deferring and yielding even when you have a right to argue your point of the matter.
   d. Showing respect for the position and authority that God has given your husband as the priest and head of your home.
   e. Every time we defer to our husbands and are not contentious we are crushing the serpent under our feet!

E. My Greatest Revelation on this matter:
   a. Men have a great responsibility to provide and care for their wife and family as the spiritual leader.
   b. The best I can do is pray for my husband.
   c. I am accountable for my submission, but not accountable for his decisions.
   d. Crushing the enemy under my feet thru submission!